We all have to deal with rejection, whether that be from a partner, friend or work opportunity. Our natural reaction when facing rejection is to feel hurt, angry, upset and to blame ourselves. The mind is an extremely powerful thing and if, when facing rejection, it can make us feel this way, surely it has the ability to turn that around to look at rejection in a more positive way.
Think about all the times you have rejected something, telling a friend you can’t hang out with them, turning down a job because you got a better one or telling someone you don’t want to be with them. When we reject someone, it is rarely because they are a terrible person or that they are a negative in your life, it is usually because they are not right for you at that time, or that you are not ready for them. Even with us knowing this, we all still choose to take rejection personally; and that is down to us projecting the negative views of ourselves onto how others treat us. We are all guilty of it and it needs to stop, it is not a healthy way of thinking and just causes negativity in our lives.
Next time you face rejection (it happens to everyone) try to look at it in a slightly more positive light, yes it will hurt but looking at things in a different way will help. Think of the opportunities you will gain that you wouldn’t have been able to take had you not been rejected, a job that will lead you down a completely different path or meeting someone that adds different values to your life than the one who rejected you. The most important thing to remember when being rejected is that it is not always your fault, of course reflect on why it happened and if there is anything you could have done differently as that is healthy, but what is not healthy is to let rejection consume you and allow for negative feelings about yourself to fester. Rejection is not a reflection on you, and if you take one thing away from this Mental Health Minute post, let it be that.
We hope you enjoyed this post and have found it useful, please feel free to leave your tips for dealing with rejection in the comments to help others. As always, please feel free to contact us with any suggestions, questions or even just a friendly chat, we’re always here.
Love, The Mental Health Makeover team x